“Naisipan ko na ib€ntâ sarili ko para ma-provide rin ang needs ni bf…” –Sender

Hi, I’m 20 years old (F) and my partner is 21 years old (M), we’re in a relationship for about 6 years already. Yes, we’re too young for love.

Nag-start ang secret ko nung nag-SHS ako. Napansin ko na hindi good parents ang parents ni partner as ilang taon pa lang ay inaasahan na siya na makapag-ambag sa bahay nila. Nung napagod na kawo-work si partner ko, pinalalayas siya.

Naisipan ko na ib€ntâ sarili ko, yung work ko rin kasi ay hindi enough ang sahod to cover his needs kasi parehas kami nag-aaral.


Hindi ako yung wâlk€r na sa isang taon ay may 100 na previous custom€r na. Sa year na yun (2019) ay 3 na yung legit custom€r ko.

Mas lalo kaming nahirapan nung nag-pandemic dahil wala kaming maasahan, nag-continue ako sa ganung work for him, at super galing ko magtago sa kanya, actually, hindi niya pa yon nalalaman.

Masakit sa akin na parang binab@b0y ko sarili ko at partner ko para sa p€ra, pero when you’re on your survival mode, lahat gagawin mo para sa kanya.


I’m also the eldest in my family and 5 kaming magkakapatid, I’m the breadwinner at talagang wala akong choice kung hindi lunukin yung fact na magwo-w@lk ako until kaya na namin ni partner at tapos na mag-aral mga kapatid ko.

Should I tell it to my partner na he needs to work harder kasi ginagawa ko na ito (w@lk) para magkasya lahat ng gastusin?

Iisang anak lang si partner pero hindi kayang tulungan ng magulang. Sobrang napapagod na ako, at come to think of it, minsan kapag nagtatalo kami ay nagpapaka-superior ako kasi I know I did everything I could for us up to the point na sinikmura kong ib€ntâ sarili ko.


Now (2023), it’s my 4th year in w@lk industry. I started when I was 17 years old and this year, I’m turning 21 while my partner is turning 22.

Need ko po ng advice if shall I share it to my partner na ganito ginagawa ko, or should I tell him na he needs to work harder, or iwan ko na lang siya?

Minsan kasi tinanong ko siya na what if naging bayarang babae ako, tatanggapin pa rin ba niya ako? He might say yes at that time pero knowing na it’s the truth, baka magbago siya ng isip.


Please give me an advice, alam kong kat@ng@han ginawa ko and I wanted to set things straight na rin. Kung tanggap niya ako as I am, maybe this time he will work hard enough para huminto na ako or we will end things between one another.

Miss Amelia, 2020, JRU

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Black knight
Black knight
10 months ago

Wdym work hard enough? Hindi ba sya nagtatrabaho ng maayos or masyadong chill chill lang ? Kasi kung kita mo naman na may job sya and tingin mong wala na syang mapapasukan na mas better as of now dahil baka di ppa sya nakakatapos ay wala din syang magagawa lalo na kung pinàgsasabay nya work and ag aaral same as din kung full time work sya. I know na marami kang sakripisyo para tulungan sua pero sana wag mo isumbat dahil yes mahal mo sya and ginawa mo yan para sakanya pero he never asked for you to do it and kung di ka nya din matanggap after mo umamin edi wow sakanya

Hkkkk
Hkkkk
10 months ago

I’m sorry that you’ll get through that. Mag virtual assistant ka nalang o data encoder. Mas malaki kita dun para naman di mo na yan magawa sa self mo. Mag aral ka ng freelance. I hope mag heal ka na din soon. Hingi ka tawad sa Panginoon malilinis buo mong pagkatao o body. Naiintindihan kita at yung situation nyo/mo ng partner mo. I wish you success! At sana maintindihan ka din ng partner mo. Alam ko di nya maiiwasan na di masaktan pero hayaan mo sya at sana matanggap ka parin nya at sana hindi nya sisihin sarili nya kung bakit mo yun nagawa. Wag mo na rin sisihin sarili mo na hindi ka malinis. Maaaring nababoy katawan mo pero yung nasa kalooban mo hindi. Pero gaya nga ng sabi ko. Humingi ka ng tawad sa Panginoon. You’ll be cleansed and have a new life!

Cheng sheng chua
Cheng sheng chua
Reply to  Hkkkk
10 months ago

How po vertual assistant willing to learn po need q din po ng work kht nasa bahay lang pls help po salamat po 🥺

Chi
Chi
Reply to  Hkkkk
10 months ago

How? I’m willing to learn.

Black knight
Black knight
Reply to  Hkkkk
10 months ago

Hindi lahat religious

Hkkkk
Hkkkk
Reply to  Black knight
10 months ago

I know right! Just in case only. At isa pa wala naman masama sa sinabi ko. May mga non religious na inaaccept si God though and with that dun na sila naniniwala sa kanya. At depends naman yun kay Sender kung lalapit sya kay God o hindi. Hindi mo nga din alam kung naniniwala ba sya o hindi kay God.. And hindi porket humihingi ng tawad sa Panginoon is requirement na maging religious. Lahat ng tao kayang gawin humingi ng tawad sa Panginoon o mag ask ng guidance and help kung gugustuhin nila. Gets ko pinaparating mo sa simple sentence pero sana wag kang negative thinker.

Hkkkk
Hkkkk
Reply to  Hkkkk
10 months ago

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•Time-Tracking Tools•
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It’s inconvenient to send files back and forth by email when collaborating. It makes much more sense to use file sharing tools. There are several options for free virtual assistant software for file sharing, but a couple stand out as the best.

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Hkkkk
Hkkkk
Reply to  Hkkkk
10 months ago

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Hkkkk
Hkkkk
Reply to  Hkkkk
10 months ago

Tips:

Mas maganda kung mag aapply kayo. Dun kayo sa international. Kase mas malaki yung kita dun.. Dollars kitaan dun.. Although Dollars din naman kapag naka base ka sa Philippines pero mas maganda kung sa international ka naka-base o yung nag recruit sayo tiga ibang bansa. Sa totoo lang. Kasi yung rate dito sa Philippines 6$-7$ base sa nakikita kong offer. Depende pa to kung ilang oras yung schedule nyo o ilang oras kayo mag wowork. Pero kapag kase nasa international company kayo. Kadalasan nakikita ko sa rate nila compare dito sa Philippines is 30$-40$ per hour! Depende pa to kung gaano kalaki yung budget ng client mo o anong rate ng company salary.

Pareho nag o-offer ng part time job o full time job..

Pero as far as I know kapag solo freelancer pwede nyo pag usapan yan ng client mo kung ilang hrs yung working schedule mo.

Hkkkk
Hkkkk
Reply to  Hkkkk
10 months ago

Kadalasan yung mga freelancers dito naghahanap ng mga hiring job sa dalawang site o app na to.

Fiverr
Upwork

Pero meron din naman dito sa Facebook group page na pwede nyong maging client.

Tips ko lang ah? Kilatisin nyo kinakausap nyo kapag dito kayo sa Facebook naghanap. Kase yung iba scammers.

Hkkkk
Hkkkk
Reply to  Hkkkk
10 months ago

At isa pa madaming hiring apps o website para makahanap ng mga clients kapag freelancer ka. Hindi lang upwork at fiverr. Pero yun nga marami talagang people gumagamit ng dalawang tonkumbaga common na for me.

Hkkkk
Hkkkk
Reply to  Hkkkk
10 months ago

Ayan goodluck sa inyo! Pag aralan nyo nalang mga nilapag ko dito. Pwede kayong sumali sa mga freelancer teams.

Hkkkk
Hkkkk
Reply to  Hkkkk
10 months ago

Kung may idadagdag pa yung iba about freelance pwede rin po kayo mag share. At kung may mali man ako about sa info paki-correct nalang.

Aaaa
Aaaa
10 months ago

Sometimes, if we love someone we are willing to do everything just for them. But I don’t know what kind of love is this. Kasi kung mahal mo
talaga ang isang tao Hindi ka gagawa ng Mali towards him. Kahit ang intention mo is tulungan siya pero kung Mali ang paraan mo that doesn’t justify what you did. At isa pa, kung talagang mahal mo siya tutulungan mo siyang mag grow by letting him stand on his own and provide his needs. Kailangan bago ka magmahal ng iba sender mahalin mo muna sarili mo. Kasi kapag iniwan ka niyan wala kang ibang sisisihin kundi yung sarili mo. You’ll regret the things you’ve done for him. At baka isuka mo pa sa huli yang sarili mo.

Last edited 10 months ago by Aaaa
eNEBE
eNEBE
10 months ago

Take the risk, sender. Tell him. Kumbaga, if malaman nya, siguro maaari nyang maappreciate ang ginawa mo for him kahit sobra na yung effort at sacrifice mo sakanya, magpupursigi at communication lang sender. If hindi ka nya matatanggap, siguro take it as your way out sa ganyang work. Sender, di ko naman inaano yung ganung trabaho pero as much as possible mas magsubok kang maghanap buhay na iba pa. Feeling ko naman madiskarte ka, gamitin mo yung ganung skill mo, wag na yan lalo’t hatala namang ayaw mo nyang work mo at napipilitan ka lang talaga. Goodluck sender and Godbless

eNEBE
eNEBE
Reply to  eNEBE
10 months ago

Saka maawa ka sa sarili mo sender. Bata ka pa naman mas isipin natin na may opportunity ka pang makukuha, wag ka lang mawalan ng tiwala at tapusin ang lahat dahil lang araw-araw mong nararanasan ang hirap. Bilog ang mundo, magpapay off ang lahat na nageeffort sa buhay, sender. Manalig ka lang.

ksksjsjsjdhd
ksksjsjsjdhd
10 months ago

YUNG BF MO LUMPO EH DAMING MAS MAHIRAP PA SA KANYA TAS SYA HUMIHINGI NG TULONG SA EABAB WTF , WAG MO MASYADONG IISPOIL BF MO MASASANAY YAN

Hmm
Hmm
9 months ago

That was sad. Yong kahit ano talaga magagawa mo or kakapit ka sa patalim para sa mahal mo. Pero sana mas maging honest ka sa partner mo.

Kasi at the end kung di ka magtatapat baka mamaya huli na pala ang lahat.

khalid
khalid
9 months ago

maling mali to. pagkatapus mo syang tanungin ng ganon. di man lang sya nag tanong na.
BAKIT naging bayaran kana ba?
di man lang ba nagtanong kung saan ba galing ang pera mo?
kung saan mo kinukuha ito?
kunh di sya nagtanung ng ganyan sender baka alam nya ang ginagawa mo. ok lang kasi may binibigay ka?
ano ba ang ginagawa ng partner mo? relax lang ba?
wag ganon. kahit anong hirap kung sabay kayo magbubuhat malalampasan yan hindi yung isa lang nagdadala. mahalin mo sarili mo bago iba po

Dana
Dana
4 months ago

Bakit ka sa ganyang tao dumikit? Maging praktikal kana lang sis. Knowing na mahirap ka na nga dun kapa sa mahirap din makikipag relasyon. Tingnan mo sarili mo, isa sya sa naging dahilan bakit nagung ganyan ka kaht sabihin na may choice ka. Isa sya sa dahilan kasi hindi nya kayang magprovide para sa inyo, PARA SAYO. Hiwalayan mona kahit sabihin mo na mahal mo sya, NAKAKAIN BA ANG PAGMAMAHAL? BE PRACTICAL. Mahirap kana nga sa mahirap kapa didikit. BE PRACTIKAL

Iza
Iza
4 months ago

Bhie sure kabang dika iiwan pag nalaman Niya saang galing ung tulong mo, sa tingin mas better maging single ,and maipon for self then paparalin mo self mo, if graduate kana mas Malaki ung opportunities na nabibigay sa siblings mo . Kasi Hindi ka commit sa Iba, like me ayokong pumasok sa relationship sa ngayun I’m single for 4 years na and nag stop Ako Muna para magipon for my college in 2 years na , tas mag eenrol Nako ulit for this year as 3rd year college, katulong ung pinasukan ko Kasi no bills hahaha tapos dame kopang gifts na natanggap this Christmas from them and their family
Just my opinion, deep na cguro ung love nio ,diko Kasi alam yan e hahahha pero mas maganda Nayan kung iakw bread winner mas focus ka sa responsibility mo sa sarilio and fam then pasok sa relationship

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