Hi avid readers! I just want some advice about my relationship with my partner. Our love story began at a ônê-night stând. Both drunk, something happened, and tried out being in a relationship, then soon ended up having a baby.
He was this ‘palabiro’ type-of-guy ever since, and isa ‘yon sa nagustuhan ko sa kaniya but then one day, he just changed.
I don’t know kung p0stpârtum d3pr3ssi0n ko lang ba ito or what, but every time he jokes around at his friends na kaya niyang mambabae and that men can change their wives easily, ay naiinis ako.
I would always confront him that sometimes jokes can hurt someone’s feelings, but he would just say that I don’t have a trust on him. I do trust him. Really.
But is it jokes are half meant? I mean, when you hurt someone even though they did or did not say it directly then you should stop what you are doing.
But in our case, we would fight over it and he can easily decide that he would leave us and I would always beg not to.
Hindi ko alam if sa ‘kin ba ‘yong mali by not letting him say sorry to me every time we fought, or it’s him not even bothering to tell me how sorry he is.
He don’t hurt me physically, but emotionally? I can tell you, I’ve got to the point where I want to k!ll myself in front of him. I don’t think it’s love anymore. I can’t feel it.
I’m not dūmb enough not to know what he might be doing. His actions and mood swings towards me is enough proof. But I can’t just leave him.
He’s been a good father and a good provider. Isn’t it what women wants for a husband? He got it.
But what about me? Until when am I going to be like this? Pretending to be okay and don’t have the right to stood up for myself.
I’m tired of it. But, I’ve got a kid who depends on me. I can sacrifice my happiness for my kid’s happiness.
We can truly forget about ourselves once this little angel comes into our lives, right, mommies out there?
But I want to still have your advices. I just want to clear my mind off of this sh*ts that’s been bugging me.
Don’t normalize this men, us women being hûrt and you don’t care. Our mental health is also your priority, men. Please keep that in mind.
Anya, 2016, *Confidential
What do you prefer? English at Tagalog advice? Because I’m nosebleed rn 😌
What do you prefer? English at Tagalog advice? Because I’m nosebleed rn 😌
damn, one of the reasons kung bakit dko gustong makipag rs, keep fighting ate butif dmo tagala kaya then let him, let him realize
Wala akong naiintindihan, bobo ko talaga sa english 😮💨
he’d easily boast about abandoning you and your child as a “joke”. If someone’s hurt, it’s not a joke. Dapat sineseryoso nya feelings mo and all the other things he did that hurt you most, grabe naman, pati mga kaibigan nya tinotolerate ang ganong joke. Mga sinasabi mo papasok sa tenga, lumalabas sa kabilang tenga nya how kayo magkaka heart to heart talk? Also how about your child, what if the fights that make you mentally hurt leads into you having issues with your child? Pano pag hindi mo na matolerate ang partner mo’t mailabas mo sa bata mga hinanakit mo? Pano na kayo ng anak mo?
Choose your peace of mind..
grabe namang joke yan nakakastress
Nangyari skn Yan at dinala ko xa hahaha kung kaya nya tumingin sa iba khit joke lng kaya ko dn tingnan ng iba hahaha kaya ayon nag bago xa ever tho jokes un nkaka hurt prin sa part ntin kaya binabalik ko dn sknya pra kwitsss dba gnon lng un pag tinolerate mo kc gagaguhin klng kaya mging gago ka rin dpat dna USO martir kung ano kaya nla kaya dn ntin kung kaya nya palitan ka pmuka mong kaya mo dn xa palitan love urself mag ayos ka pra ma threaten xa gnyan lng cla sa salita pero kulang sa gawa trust me
You always choose your peace of mind, being a good father obligasyon nya yun obligasyon natin ang mga anak natin, imagine mas malaki parin sacrifice natin mga babae kesa sa mga lalaki once mag kaanak tayu. Kung mahal ka talaga nya iiwasan nya dapt na masaktan ka. Wag mo hayaang maubos ka muna bago ka magising na ayaw muna. Isipin mo lagi yung anak mo. Kung mag separate naman kayu soon maiintindihan din ng anak mo yan. I have 4 kids, yung 3 anak ko sa una.
Nagsimula sa one night stand which is very wrong. Binigay mo sarili mo sa taong hindi mo pa lubos kilala. Isa nalang talaga option kung may trabaho ka leave him. Punta ka sa baranggay o abugado para tulungan ka niya finacially sa anak niyo. Hinding-hindi magtatagal ang ganyang uri ng relasyon sa una palang mali na. Katawan lang ang habol niya sa’yo. Para kang buble gum pagkatapos nguyain itatapon na.😩 Nasa tamang edad na kayo alam niyo mali at tama. Kayo at kayo lang din ang hahawak kung ano ang magiging aksyon niyo regarding the abuses he did to you. Maawa po kayo sa anak niyo at sa sarili niyo. Hindi po magtatagal kung ganyan ka toxic at pang-aabuso na ginagawa niya sa’yo.
Mag joke ka rin kaya ng ganyan sa friends mo tapos ung maririnig nya for sure magagalit tumbong nyan . Iba p nmn ibang lalaki ayaw mappahiya grbe ego ng mga yan . Dont worry valid yang nararamdaman mo na magalit pero please dont hurt yourself isipin mo hindi mo deserve na saktan sarili mo para lng sa isang lalaki anu sya chicks. Sya lng ba anak ng dios? Sa totoo lng ginawa ko yan nagtutok ako ng kutsilyo sa sarili ko nakahrap asawa ko kse nahuli ko syang maraming ka chat sa messenger. Ginawa ko yun para matakot sya pero hinding hindi ko sasaktan sarili ko ng physical para sknya. Tulad ng asawa mo good father at good provider nmn ang asawa ko. Pero emotionally din ang prob ko saknya. Pero kaya nten to matutunan mo din lumaban pag napagod ka
Kahit pa sabihing joke nakakasakit padin..bakit kelangan pa nila mgbitiw ng mga ganyan salita kahit alam naman nila may partner na sila.kahit sabihin biro lang bakit ang sakit pag naririnig natin🥹
Hindi ka naman kase mahal nyan. Nag i-stay lang sya kasi may anak kayo. Truth hurts. He also doesn’t value your feelings. Whether he is joking or not. He is wrong too to spilled that words though. I think that’s your karma. You deserve it. Face the consequences of your actions because of your irresponsibility. Although your child doesn’t deserve to have that kind of family, I feel sad to him/her. Napilitan lang si guy sayo. Pero di ka mahal nyan. I won’t apologized if you get hurt by the words I’ve said. Don’t get mad or blame the guy. Because both of you did chose that situation without thinking a possible child that might come. You are both selfish for thinking yourselves only when you did that one night stand. You never think someone might suffer. And for sure, in that time. You both hurt people around you. Think about your child and let him go. Because if you stay. You will have more breakdown and lose yourself.
Nahhh mg lalaking bayag lang panlaban,,ganyan na ganyan,,ung kala nila malaking kawalan sa ating mga babae pag nawala sila,,,luhhh uoi wag ka magmakaawa sa lalaking kinakawawa ka teh…nubayan,…kawawa ka sa ending nian,,mataas pa sa pader pride ng mga in got na lalaking yan,,,ung Kong gaano kalaki ng pride nila ganun din kasinliit ng mga utak nian…
Inabuso ka na nian,lumaban kamo xa ng patas…para nmng di lalaki,,baka bakla yan,..
Nag-joke din sa akin one time partner ko. Na-offend ako honestly at ipinakita ko ‘yon sa kanya. Sabi niya ” sa mga kapayid kong babae at jowa ng kapatid kong lalaki, ikaw lang ang pinakamaliit at pango. Hindi ka ba nahihiya niyan?”. Haha totoo naman na pango at maliit ako. Haha nainis lang ako sa part na tinanong akong kung hindi ba ako nahihiya hahhaa joke lanh daw ‘yon.
Panay puri puri naman siya sa akin pagka nagsend ako selfie. Maayos-ayos din kasi ako at maputi. Pambawi sa pagigong maliit at pango ahahha. Pero hindi ako naniniwala sa papuri puri niya ahhaa lalo karamihan ng pina-follow, mga chix. Haays
Tinanong ko sa Ai, ito po advise niya hahaha kagaling.
I’m sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time in your relationship. It sounds like you are feeling emotionally hurt and unsupported by your partner’s behavior, and that this is impacting your mental health.
It’s important to recognize that jokes that hurt someone’s feelings are not okay, even if they are meant to be funny. It’s understandable that you feel upset when your partner jokes about cheating or changing partners, especially given the circumstances of how your relationship started. It’s also concerning that he responds to your concerns by dismissing them and saying you don’t trust him.
It’s not healthy to stay in a relationship where you feel emotionally abused or neglected, even if your partner is a good provider and father. Your own well-being and happiness are just as important as your child’s, and you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel loved, respected, and supported.
I would encourage you to seek support from a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your feelings and make decisions about your relationship. They can also provide you with strategies for coping with stress and improving your mental health.
You might also consider having an honest conversation with your partner about how his behavior is affecting you, and what you need from him in order to feel supported and loved. If he is unwilling or unable to change his behavior, then you may need to consider other options, such as separation or divorce.
Remember that you are not alone, and there are resources available to help you through this difficult time. Take care of yourself, and prioritize your own well-being and happiness.
That’s how deep a mother can sacrifice for the sake of her child(s). So u kiddos our parents esp our mothers who gave birth to us deserve to be love and respected.
I think pahiwatig na yan ng LIP mo na in any moment once makahanap sya ng ipapalit sayo e, kayang kaya ka nya talagang iwan. Cause if he really loves you, he wouldn’t do the things that might hurt you since he is aware naman na that “joke” is making you to over think and still doing it again then it seems that he doesn’t love you that much.