Is it normal ‘pag yung ka-live in partner mo ay pînîpîlît kang makipag-ano kahit ayaw mo?
There’s a time kasi na pînîlît niya ako kahit ayaw ko, pero hindi siya nagpatinag at tinuloy niya yung gusto niya kahit umîîyâk na ako.
Hindi niya ako tînîgîlan hangga’t hindi siya natatap0s.
Hanggang sa nagbunga yung ginawa niya sa akin, yes, nâbûnt!s ako.
Ask ko lang if may chance bang ulitin niya sa akin ‘yun? N@t@t@k0t ako na baka ulitin niya ‘yon.
Nag-promise siya na hindi na niya uulitin.
Baka may katulad akong naka-experience diyan. Ano ma-a-advice niyo sa akin?
P.S. Isa siyang Pulis. Sinasabi niya minsan na ‘pag hindi ko siya pinagbibigyan, baka makahanap daw siya ng iba ‘pag lagi ako aayaw.
Ms. Sushi, 4TH, BSCE, UST
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One thing na I would definitely advise is; run.
Hiwalaayan mo na kasi no matter what, a NO is a NO and hindi ka nya dapat pilitin, even to say na live-in-partner ka nya and pulis sya. He should still respect you. And he, as a police officer knows well na pasok sa kasong r*pe yung ginawa nyang pamimilit sayo.
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Bakit kaya may mga ganyang lalaki ano. Na mananakot pa, namimiliit grabe ang ugali naturingang pulis tapos ganyan ang pag uugali. Dapat diyan ipakulong eh. Pwede mo naman ireklamo yan, basta wag mo ipapaalam sakanya. Kasi baka mamaya kung ano ang gagawin sayo
t4ng¡nang yan pulis pa man din tapos di nya alam tungkulin nya bilang isang partner, nakaka gigil ah much better na hiwalayan mo na sya ate, nananakot pa nga, gawain pa ba yan ng matinong partner jusq
Akala ko ako yung nagkekwento same situation, iba lang ng school at hindi ako nabuntis.
Everytime na nagkikita kami parang nakikipag kita lang siya just to satisfy his needs. Quality time daw namin yun pero bruuuh hindi ko gusto yung quality time na gusto niya.. Ilang beses ko na siyang iniwan pero pumupunta siya sa bahay… umiiyak, sinasabing hindi na mauulit, pero pagod na ako sa ganoong scenario kasi wala namang pagbabago. Alam ko kung ano ang dapat gawin, gusto ko nang kumawala kasi wala na yung salitang respect sa relasyon namin pero sobrang hirap pag nabulag at naging bingi ka na sa lintik na pagmamahal na yan!!
consider rape po ang ginawa nya sa iyo kasi di po dapat ganyan kahit asawa mo pa po yan consider rape po yan advise ko lang po if ever na gagawin nya ulit yang ginawa nya sayo pwede kapo mag file ng kaso ti-ni-threat ka pa po nya na maghahanap sya ng iba. wag po kayong matakot maging single mom kung gaganyanin kalang nmn din ng partner mo
It is not normal for a partner to force or pressure someone into engaging in sexual activities if the other person is not willing. This is a violation of boundaries and consent, and it is important to prioritize one’s own well-being and safety in such situations.
If this has happened to you, it is important to seek support from trusted friends or family members or seek professional help from a therapist or counselor. You may also consider reporting the incident to the authorities, especially if there was coercion or violence involved.
It is concerning that your partner is a police officer and is using his position to intimidate you. This behavior is not acceptable, and you should not be threatened or coerced into doing something you are not comfortable with. It is important to communicate clearly with your partner about your boundaries and expectations for the relationship, and if they are not willing to respect them, it may be necessary to reconsider the relationship.
Remember that you deserve to be in a safe and healthy relationship where your boundaries and consent are respected. Seek help if you need it, and prioritize your own well-being.
Sex without your permission/consent is RAPE!!!
He did it once, he can do it again. Hindi nga s’ya natinag ng iyak mo eh. Don’t trust his words. Police s’ya ng lagay na ‘yan ha. What a jerk.
Run, love. Run, and never look back. He’s just with you for lust, not love.
tulfo
considered as rape.a NO is a NO..
No means No and if he still kept going its Rape
He’s a certified red flag. Dapat una pa lang ikaw na ang kumalas. No one deserves to be forced by someone in any aspect, lalo na sa ganyang bagay. Lumalabas lang na hinahalay ka nya. That thing should be made with love and respect, not with pain and trauma. Kung maghahanap sya ng iba kasi tumatanggi ka, then go. Let him be. Hindi lang sya ang lalake sa mundo. Know your worth, learn to value your soul and peace. Sabi nga sa isang kasabihan, “once the respect was no longer served on the table, grab your bag and leave”. Don’t ever look back. It doesn’t matter kung gaano na kayo katagal, o kung gaano mo sya kamahal. Once na maramdaman mong wala na syang respeto sa’yo, for sure, hindi ka na mahal nung tao.
Pag di mo gusto yung ginagawa sayo. Râpè yan. Kasuhan mo.
Ang tanong mahal mo pa ba ang taong ‘yan at bakit ka pumayag na makipag-live in kung hindi mo siya mahal? At nauwi ang lahat sa bangungot. Isa lang po ang dapat niyong gawin pwede niyo kasuhan o hindi naman kaya maghiwalay nalang po kayo. The worst thing nabuntis ka po.
Bounce back beb. Actually you can file a case kasi di mo naman ginusto so basically under sya ng rape kahit sabihin mo na magpartner kayo. Hiwalayan mo na. Kaya mo buhayin anak mo ng wala sya being a single mom is not a disadvantage it will make you more tough since you have someone that you can depend on which is you child.
A big NO! for me, mahal man o hindi, aalis at aalis ako sa relasyong yan. And considered rape po ginawa nya, kahit na in a relationship kayo. A No is a No. Wala syang karapatang pilitin ka maki pag-***.
.. It’s okay to give him a chance.. Like see if uulitin nya un..
Pwede kang magsampa ng kaso kapag pinipilit ka niya. Which is ayaw mo ng hassle.
“baka maghanap ako ng iba” is a bad bad sign.
I hope ate wag kang papayag na mangayari ulit un. Pwede mo sana syang iwan kaso buntis ka na eh
Pwede mo syang kasuhan ng rape kahit pa partner mo sya, even kahit asawa.
ASAWAT, BF, KALIVE IN BASTA HBDI BUKAL SA KALOOBAN MO, D MO GUSTO, AT PINILIT KA RAPE PO UN.
Rape na ang tawag dun sender. Kahit mag partner pa kayo, kung ginamit ka by force its a rape. Manipulative and controlling. Isang malaking red flag.
Pulis pa naman sya, alam nya dapat may kaso kapag pinilit mo yun babae na makipag sex sayo, kahit sabihin mag partner pa kayo, kahit nga kasal na kayo at dinaanan ka sa pwersahan at pilitin ng asawa mo makipag sex ng labag sa kagustuhan mo pwede mo nga silang kasuhan.
Sex without consent is rape.
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ayy teh nag aaral ka pa pala. bat naman ganon yung boy. grabe